Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Despite all the agony of realizing that you've been sprinting down the wrong road, the only way you'll leave despair and get back to a happier, better you is to make a U-turn. As with all this philosophical stuff I spout on here, it's a lot easier to say than to do.
I know what I'm talking about. Funnily enough I've been coping with a little bit of despair this week. Don't worry, I'm okay. It's more like microtrauma. But it's a trauma nonetheless.
And after the 2 hours of wailing, crying, cursing and teeth-gnashing on Monday night in the presence of my poor husband, I had to face the thing head on. I'm not nearly as together as my Facebook profile might lead you to believe. I get sad. I get discouraged. Hey! I'm SUFFERING over here!
But being pragmatic as I am (and realizing that I've probably already maxed out my whining to hubby time for the WHOLE month of February) I realized that my feelings won't change unless I change. I needed to make a U-turn.
A U-turn doesn't have to be dramatic. You don't need to turn your whole life around. As you probably already know, I don't go in for that all or nothing stuff. Just change one thing around. Make a concerted effort to do one thing differently or change how you handle one thing, and see if it gets you out of the rut.
I decided that I had been feeling isolated, so I made a highly concerted effort to start calling people and setting up actual "dates" and "meeting times" to get together. I work from home most of the time--which is awesome. But at some point you realize you're having long meaningful conversations with the dog and you haven't washed your hair for days. And lest I fall ENTIRELY into a Howard Hughes kind of rut, I need to make a U-turn and meet face to face with some real live people.
So if you're stuck in a rut, what can you change. How can you make a itty-bitty U-turn to get on a different track. Turn that car around darlin' and start driving towards joy!
The Fat Chick
Posted by The Fat Chick at 2:40 PM