Despair: Making a U-Turn

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Despite all the agony of realizing that you've been sprinting down the wrong road, the only way you'll leave despair and get back to a happier, better you is to make a U-turn.  As with all this philosophical stuff I spout on here, it's a lot easier to say than to do.

I know what I'm talking about.  Funnily enough I've been coping with a little bit of despair this week.  Don't worry, I'm okay.  It's more like microtrauma.  But it's a trauma nonetheless.

And after the 2 hours of wailing, crying, cursing and teeth-gnashing on Monday night in the presence of my poor husband, I had to face the thing head on.  I'm not nearly as together as my Facebook profile might lead you to believe.  I get sad.  I get discouraged.  Hey!  I'm SUFFERING over here!

But being pragmatic as I am (and realizing that I've probably already maxed out my whining to hubby time for the WHOLE month of February) I realized that my feelings won't change unless I change.  I needed to make a U-turn.

A U-turn doesn't have to be dramatic.  You don't need to turn your whole life around.  As you probably already know, I don't go in for that all or nothing stuff.  Just change one thing around.  Make a concerted effort to do one thing differently or change how you handle one thing, and see if it gets you out of the rut.

I decided that I had been feeling isolated, so I made a highly concerted effort to start calling people and setting up actual "dates" and "meeting times" to get together.  I work from home most of the time--which is awesome.  But at some point you realize you're having long meaningful conversations with the dog and you haven't washed your hair for days.  And lest I fall ENTIRELY into a Howard Hughes kind of rut, I need to make a U-turn and meet face to face with some real live people.

So if you're stuck in a rut, what can you change.  How can you make a itty-bitty U-turn to get on a different track.  Turn that car around darlin' and start driving towards joy!

The Fat Chick